Is your child leaving for University? - Separation Anxiety
The Summer holidays are over, and children have returned to school. Everywhere young people are preparing to go off to University for the very first time. Talking to a family member who is one year away from going to University it became apparent that she would like to go to Uni but is worried she won’t like it or be able to cope. Having never lived away from home it’s important that her parents prepare her for what’s to come emotionally. She’ll have to make new friends, adjust to living with other people, and learn to navigate a new routine. Many students have feelings of inadequacy before their transition to University, those emotions will be amplified, at least for a while after they leave home. Additionally, your child’s identity can be shaken during the transition to University – familiar peers who have given them a sense of “where they fit in”. Even the most independent person can experience some homesickness.
Often neither parents nor the child thinks about separation anxiety and the emotional aspects of the transition to University. It isn’t just the student who can have some problems coping – often parents struggle to adjust to this new phase of life without their teen and find themselves going through a bout of separation anxiety when their child leaves for school.
Separation Anxiety Symptoms
The following separation anxiety symptoms can affect both teens and parents:A feeling of helplessness, sadness, worry, or anger
Excessive worry, allowing your thoughts to run wild (“what if?” thinking)
Fear or reluctance to go off to school and leave the familiar comforts of home
Nightmares or trouble sleeping
Nausea or vomiting
Stomach-aches, loss of appetite
Racing heart, shortness of breath
How to Help Your Child Deal with Separation Anxiety
It’s normal for children and parents to go through many of these separation anxiety symptoms during the first term of University, but many don’t seek help. Keep in mind that those who already teenagers who already experience depression or anxiety will probably require even more emotional support. Here are some ways you can help you’re your child transition to University:
Talk to your child before they leave for University and let them know that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed as they adjust to their new life away from home.
Listen to your child and encourage them to talk about the stress they are feeling.
Encourage them to join a club, group or get involved in extracurricular activities to make new friends.
Visit them at University if you can, and if you are needed.
Educate yourself about the places your child can go for help, such as on-campus support groups or counselling.
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